ENSNARED - Red Rose 🌹 Day 1 - 2024

Ensnared

KEMI was a promising young woman who had a bright future before she met Tope, who swept her off her feet. 

Tope did not share her religious beliefs, but he always spoke to her about his principles and family values. 

She remembers him saying that a wife does

not need to work as a husband should be supportive of his wife.

She thought to herself, 'This is the man of my dreams.'

Tope was flamboyant, romantic and passionate and she fell head over heels in love with him. 

Kemi's parents and friends tried to talk her out of it, but her mind was made up. 

"The way he explained it, his beliefs sounded very much like my own,' she said. He said the

right things at the right time. 

However, not everything he told her was true. When Tope proposed to Kemi, she accepted, promising to marry him according to his religious beliefs and to bring up their children as his religion required. 

During the ceremony Kemi repeated phrases in his language with no idea of what she was saying. 

After the wedding she read her marriage certificate and was shocked to find that her name had been changed to a traditional one.

 Her new husband assured her that it was 'just on paper' but suddenly Kemi's dream of a knight in shining armour was turning

into a nightmare.

The more I submitted to his traditions, the more he and his family had rights over me,' she explained. 

'He controlled everything - my money, my decisions and my social life. 

He stayed out all night, spending his time in strip bars or with other women. 

The physical abuse started while I was expecting our second child.' 

On the outside Kemi's life looked like a Hollywood fantasy - seven homes, an eighteen-carat tennis bracelet and any car she wanted - but inside, she was experiencing a living hell.

The lessons to be learnt

✔Your partner must have the same religious beliefs as you. It is not safe if they are not similar. They must be the same, otherwise

there will be serious problems, as in Kemi's case.

✔ Investigate the background of your intended spouse, his family, their traditions and beliefs.

✔Never disregard the warnings of your parents and friends.

A person who truly loves you would never put you through anything you do not understand without ensuring that you know the truth.

✔ Only when dealing with God, and not with man, should trust be blind.

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