Know Your Position in People’s Lives – It’s Called Self-Worth by Olukayode J Daniels

Know Your Position in People’s Lives – It’s Called Self-Worth

Many people struggle with knowing where they stand in relationships, friendships, or social circles. The Bible encourages self-respect, wisdom in relationships, and understanding one’s worth in Christ. When people do not involve or invite you, wisdom teaches that you should not force your presence. True self-worth comes from knowing your value in God, not from seeking validation from others.

1. Don’t Force Relationships – Know Your Place

• Proverbs 25:6-7 – "Put not forth thyself in the presence of the king, and stand not in the place of great men: For better it is that it be said unto thee, Come up hither; than that thou shouldest be put lower in the presence of the prince whom thine eyes have seen."
  → Don’t force yourself into places where you are not welcomed; let honor find you.

• Luke 14:8-10 – "When thou art bidden of any man to a wedding, sit not down in the highest room; lest a more honourable man than thou be bidden of him… But when thou art bidden, go and sit down in the lowest room; that when he that bade thee cometh, he may say unto thee, Friend, go up higher: then shalt thou have worship in the presence of them that sit at meat with thee."
  → Know your place; those who truly value you will elevate you at the right time.

2. Stop Chasing People Who Don’t Value You

• Psalm 118:8 – "It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man."
  → Your worth should come from God, not from human acceptance.

• Matthew 7:6 – "Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you."
  → Not everyone deserves your presence, efforts, or energy. Protect your self-worth.

• John 2:24-25 – "But Jesus did not commit himself unto them, because he knew all men, and needed not that any should testify of man: for he knew what was in man."
  → Even Jesus did not force Himself into people’s lives—He discerned who was truly for Him.

3. Value Yourself Enough to Walk Away

• Proverbs 22:24-25 – "Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul."
  → Surround yourself with people who genuinely appreciate you.

• 2 Corinthians 6:14 – "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?"
  → Not all relationships are meant to last; choose wisely whom you associate with.

• 1 Samuel 16:1 – "And the Lord said unto Samuel, How long wilt thou mourn for Saul, seeing I have rejected him from reigning over Israel? Fill thine horn with oil, and go, I will send thee to Jesse the Bethlehemite: for I have provided me a king among his sons."
  → Stop mourning over people who no longer value you—God has better for you.

4. True Self-Worth Comes from God

• Jeremiah 17:7 – "Blessed is the man that trusteth in the Lord, and whose hope the Lord is."
  → Your worth is in God, not in people’s validation.

• Romans 8:31 – "What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us?"
  → If God values you, why seek approval from those who don’t?

• Psalm 139:14 – "I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well."
  → You are already valuable—walk in that confidence.

Conclusion

Know your worth. If people do not involve you, don’t force yourself in. If they don’t invite you, don’t go uninvited. Walk in the confidence that God has placed you where you are meant to be. Value yourself enough to surround yourself with those who truly appreciate and honor you.

Final Charge

• Proverbs 27:17 – "Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend."
  → Stay around people who uplift and sharpen you.