What Are You Bringing to the Table?

What Are You Bringing to the Table?

A common complaint among women is that men walk away from them because they refuse to have sex. Some even resort to compromising their values to keep their partners. But let’s be real—sex might not be the real reason these men walk away.

When sex is removed from the equation, many relationships fall apart because there’s nothing else holding them together. So, the question is: Beyond physical intimacy, what value do you bring to your relationship?

Ask Yourself:

Spiritual Support: Are you someone who can pray with or for your partner? Do you encourage his spiritual growth?

Intellectual Contribution: Can you offer him fresh ideas or constructive advice about his career or life goals?

Financial Support: Are you able to help financially or wisely manage shared resources?

Emotional Stability: Are you nurturing, supportive, and emotionally intelligent?

If your focus is solely on demanding money for material things—bags, shoes, outings, and other luxuries—you might be missing the bigger picture. Relationships thrive on mutual support, growth, and shared purpose, not one-sided demands.

Be a Woman of Value

Have you ever sat down with your partner to help him plan his future?

Are you someone he feels lucky to have by his side?

Do you inspire him to be a better version of himself?

Strive to be the kind of woman a man can’t afford to lose—not because of fear, but because of the irreplaceable value you bring. Build your man with love, patience, and vision rather than expecting a "ready-made" husband while offering nothing substantial in return.

Aligning Values and Purpose

In marriage, two individuals must work together to pull the cart of life. If you are "unequally yoked," your journey will be filled with unnecessary struggles. Just as 2 Corinthians 6:14 reminds us, "What fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?" Compatibility goes beyond physical attraction; it’s about shared beliefs, goals, and values.

Final Reflection

Instead of looking for the right man, focus on becoming the right woman. When you define and cultivate your own value, you will naturally attract the kind of partner who complements and aligns with your goals. Marriage isn’t about finding someone to complete you; it’s about two whole individuals coming together to create a meaningful partnership.

So, before you ask what you want in a partner, first ask: What am I bringing to the table?