Creative Concepts for locating your soul mate by Daniel Olukayode Jacobs

 MARRIAGE IS GOD’S IDEA
 “And God said, it is not good that man should be a alone; I will make him an help meet for him”. Gen 2:18

 Man on his own did not feel a need for a help meet, it was God that initiated the move to get man hooked up.
 Marriage is designed for men
with an assignment.
 An assignment is a duty assigned to man.
 “And the Lord planted a garden eastward of Eden; and there he put the man whom he had formed.” Gen 2:7
 Man’s assignment guarantees his prosperity. His wealth is hidden in his assignment.
 “And a river went out of Eden to water the garden; and from thence it was parted, and became into four heads.” Gen 2:10 -14
 When a man locates his assignment, all he needs is to work it. Gen 2:15
 Man is not ready for marriage
until he has gained focus.
 Marriage demands singleness.
 Singleness of mind, will and purpose.
 The eyes of whoever is preparing for marriage must be single.
 “And out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.” Gen 2:19 – 20
 God had to ascertain the focus level of man before initiating the process of marriage.
 The truth is that, when a man or woman is ready for marriage, there would be need to be focused. All kind of individuals will besiege him/her pretending to be the right person. Only focus will do the trick.
 Man must be truly single
to be married.
 The concept of singleness is the most important requirement for marriage.
 Singleness speaks about uniqueness, peculiarity, difference and wholeness.
 It is going into a union being yourself and not pretending to be someone else.
 It is having a good understanding of yourself before attempting to be married.
 It would take two truly single people to be effectively married.
 “And the lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof.” Gen 2:21
 Locating a soul mate requires inspiration.
 Locating a mate is a frustrating ordeal outside the help of God.
 Only God can lead you to your “soul mate”.
 God has total control over your being and therefore needs to be given a prime place in determining your choice of a partner.
 Man without the breath of God is at his best a dead soul. It is the breath of God that empowers his soul and makes it a living soul.
 The breath of God signifies inspiration, which brings a man into qualitative interaction.
 Inspiration is one heart responding to another heart.
 “And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called woman, because she was taken out of man.” Gen 2:23

 4 levels of interaction
 Marriage that stands the test of time is built on the platform of qualitative interaction.
 There are four levels of interaction leading to marriage….
 1. Friendship
 2. Relationship
 3. Courtship
 4. Marriage.
 FRIENDSHIP
 Friendship in its simplest form is face answering to face. It is all about knowing someone on the surface. It is a union without deep commitment.
 As a man or woman, you can have numerous friends.
 Friendship is built on shared values, humor, power, intelligence or wealth.
 Friendship is simply two people or group of people sharing the same values.
“A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother”. Proverbs 18:24
“Wealth maketh many friends; but the poor is separated from his neighbor. “
Proverbs 19:4
 This shows that friends can be many, so it’s not marriage.
 Friendship is a more relaxed form of interaction and it is needed to discover some vital parts of an individual.
 Relationship
 This is a step beyond friendship.
 Relationship is initiated when you pick interest in a particular person or group with the aim of getting intimate.
 Relationship leads to deeper commitment.
 Relationship is trying to narrow down your difference between you and another.
 All my inward friends abhorred me: and they whom I loved are turned against me. Job 19:19
 Relationship is all about having inward friendship with a person of group. This person or group of people have access to personal details about you. They are privy to some of your secrets, pains and hard times.
 Courtship
 Just like the game of long tennis, you have a court.
 The court is a rectangle shaped line that ensures that the ball remains within a confined area.
 Courtship is bringing a person into your life intimately for the purpose of marriage.
 This form of relationship is deep and focuses on settling down with the one you have come to believe in, hope for a future with and love.
 Friendship develops your faith in a person, Relationship reveals your love for an individual while Courtship expresses your hope for the future.
 Courtship is not the time for intercourse but the time for interview – Pastor Bimbo Odukoya.

 Marriage
Seven concepts
 1. Marriage is Good
 2. Marriage is for better living.
 3. It is designed for fruitfulness.
 4. The law of Departure
 5. The covenant obligation of the husband.
 6. The covenant obligation of the wife.
 7. Mutual Obligations.