LOVE: THE KEY TO SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE
One of the greatest mysteries of scriptures is that of marriage.
Marriage is not a man-made institution. It is an institution founded, funded
and furnished by God. God loves marriages. Adam never knew he needed somebody until God noted that it was not good for man to be alone. Genesis 2:18
God believes in relationships. He loves communion. He is love,
and love is the foundation of marriage. The depth of love would always determine
the strength of marriage.
Any love that is not rooted in God can never be sufficient
for building a home in marriage.
The only way to keep the intruders off your marriage or home
is to embrace God that is love.
An understanding of love and submission is the first step to
building a successful home.
Why did God command the man to love his wife and for the
woman, to submit to her own husband?
Love is not stupidity; the same way submission is not a weakness. Love makes a leader, while submission makes a manager. Creativity is
what leadership offers, while management delivers sustainability.
But I make bold to submit here however that; Marriage is a
product of two “submitters” and two “lovers”.
“Submitting yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto
the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head
of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Therefore, as the church is
subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.”
Ephesians 5:22-24
How do you submit to your own husband like the church
submits to Christ?
1.
Love your husband – “admonish the young women to
love their husbands” Titus 2:4
2.
Do him good and not evil at all times – “She
does him good and not evil all the days of her life” Proverbs 31:12
3.
Make the choice to love your husband before or
ahead of your parents and children.
4.
Submit yourself to being “taught” to love your
husband. Listen to people who inspire you to love your husband, and not those
who encourage you to despise him.
5.
Show your love for your husband by making his
food and doing his laundry.
6.
Be concerned about the things that give him
pleasure.
7.
Find time to consistently pray for him in your
secret place.
8.
Demonstrate your faith in God, every time you think
he is in the wrong; by reporting him to his head – Christ.
“Husbands, love your wives even as Christ also loved
the church, and gave himself for it; ………
So, ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.
He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man yet hated his own flesh; but
nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord the church: ……………
Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so
love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverences her
husband.” Ephesians 5: 25-33
What does it mean to love your wife?
A clear illustration of what it means to love can be found
in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
1.
A husband must be patient.
2.
A husband must not be overtaken by jealousy
3.
A husband must not be boastful or proud
4.
A husband must not be rude
5.
A husband should not demand his own way
6.
A husband should not be irritable and must not keep
a record of wrong things the wife might have done
7.
A husband should not rejoice in injustice but
rejoice whenever the truth wins out
8.
A husband should never give up on his wife.
9.
A husband should never loose faith in his wife
10.
A husband should always be hopeful and endure
through every circumstance
Any marriage with love and submission is bound to enjoy
supernatural protection
